Last week I celebrated my twenty sixth birthday in beautiful Whistler, Canada. It was a week full of skiing, celebrating with good friends and eating lots of food (I will be writing about my trip in upcoming posts soon!). Looking back on this last year it has been a whirlwind of life lessons, hard choices and growing up. I thought I would share with you a few things I have learned while I was twenty five:
| We are not officially adults until the age of twenty five |
Recently I read that physiologists have found new evidence suggesting psychologically we are all children until the age of twenty five. Our brains fully develop by the time we are twenty five and so it makes sense that until then we are considered to still be children. This past year I made quite a few life changing adult decisions and I know I could not have handled them as maturely if I was still in my early twenties. It feels good to be twenty six now and fully considered an adult psychologically =o)
| It’s not you, it’s them |
Over the past few months there has been one person in particular who for whatever reason doesn’t like me. Every time I greet them I barely even get a head nod. Unfortunately I have to see this person quite often and so at first I decided I would try to kill them with kindness. When that didn’t seem to change anything I took a step back and looked at the situation. This person was going through a negative time in their life and had been unpleasant and rude to others, not just me. After realizing it wasn’t me who was the one with the problem I started to feel sorry for the other person. They may never warm up to me and I am perfectly ok with that.
| Patience and slowing down |
My family may disagree with me on this one but personally I think I have become more patient this last year. I have my yoga practice and meditation to thank for that. Learning to focus on my breath and not stress as much has taught me to make room for patience in my life. There are still times I am inpatient but I have noticed it is less often. I’ve learned to take a step back and cherish each moment around me, whether it’s being with family, traveling or enjoying those extra few minutes in bed.
| Give less F*cks |
Over the summer I picked up the book (well downloaded to my kindle) The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don’t Have with People You Don’t Like Doing Things You Don’t Want to Do (A No F*cks Given Guide) Honestly one of the funniest books I’ve read and filled with great advice. I took away a quite a few lessons from this book, such as learning to say “no”, not wasting time on things that you don’t want to do and overall not giving a f*ck about what others think. This was a huge help reading when I had to deal with the person I mentioned above in “It’s not you, it’s them”. If you haven’t read this I really recommend checking it out.
| Learn to trust and let go |
By far the toughest thing I had to learn this year. After leaving my job I travelled for a few weeks to take time to reflect on my life. At first I was a scared of the future and I could have spent every day stressing over the uncertainty but instead I let go. I knew the path I had chosen was the right one and that it would all be ok in the end. I had a feeling this amazing job was out there waiting for me and that I just had to trust that I would find it. After a few weeks of looking for a job, which also took a lot of patience, I found a firm I love in a beautiful location and with like minded people.
As a twenty five year old I made a lot of life changing decisions that made me stronger, wiser and more patient. I feel that I can take on any more challenges life throws my way. Cheers to another trip around the sun, I can’t wait to see how I change and grow this year =o)
x the Adventurer
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